Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Say What You Need To Say
Photo today: I have a friend at work named Susan. She left me a box of chocolates on my desk and I found it this morning when I went into the office. Very sweet of her! I believe in being honest in personal communications. I don't like to leave people wondering about my stance on topics, or how I really feel. I always end phone conversations with my family with an "I love you", because you never know if that's the last time they get to hear it, or if that's the last time I get to say it. I don't believe in having regrets of what I should have said. That's why John Mayer's song "Say" from the movie "Bucket List" really speaks to me. Have no fear For giving in Have no fear For giving over You better know that in the end It's better to say too much Then never to say what you need to say again Even if your hands are shaking And your faith is broken Even as the eyes are closing Do it with a heart wide open... wide... Say what you need to say Say what you need to Say what you need to Say what you need to say... When Todd walked in to work this morning, he was ushered into a conference room where his entire department was waiting. They were told that one of their co-workers, Chris (who sat very close to Todd and talked to him every day), died in a car crash yesterday, along with his girlfriend Kim. They were driving back from a weekend in Joshua Tree yesterday, and it was raining hard. They were in Morongo Valley on Highway 62 when they hydroplaned and crashed head-on with an oncoming pickup truck. I've met Chris & Kim twice before at Todd's company parties and get-togethers. I really liked them. They were pretty close to our age. Todd talked about Chris quite a bit because Chris was also a foodie and they always shared about their favorite new restaurants and food. Even though I didn't know them well, I shed some tears as Todd told me on the phone this morning. So sudden. So tragic. Of course any time I'm confronted with news like this, my thoughts lead to "That could have been us." We drove around in the rain yesterday. I'll always say what I need to say to the people I love, while I have a chance to say them.